As someone who has moved to two major cities during their adult life (London and Paris), having come from a tiny village in the countryside with a population of under 600, I know how daunting it can be to arrive in a new place, only to know no one at all. Luckily, there are a number of ways to meet new people. Here’s how to make friends in a new city (and have fun in the process).
‘They’ often say that it’s often harder to make friends as an adult, but I honestly think that ‘they’ are wrong. While it’s true that attending school as a child gives you an automatic group of people with whom you can potentially become friends, you are all forced to go to the same place.
As an adult, you are more likely to find people you’re going to get along with, for simple virtue of going to the kind of places where everyone shares the same interests (studying in a specific field, living in a certain city, working in the same domain).
Don’t be discouraged and don’t give up
First things first is a little note on adult friendships. While childhood friendships are easily formed (and often easily broken), making friends as adults is obviously much more complex and so may take a little more time. As a result, be patient and be sure not to give up.
Get to know your co-workers/ fellow students
If you’re moving to a new city on the account of a new job or studies, then one of the easiest ways to meet new people (and potential friends) is to reach out to the people you already have easy access to.
If you’re headed somewhere to attend a course or work for a company you’re passionate about, then the chances are that the people also at that insitution already hold similar values and interests as you. Reach out to them and ask to go for coffees/ lunches/ or after work drinks.
Hop on a dating app
It sounds weird, but if you’re in a new place, it can always be fun to hop on a dating app and head out on something as normal as a date, where there are no expectations for you to see the other person again if you don’t get along well.
Of course, you should always be cautious, meet in a public place, and never reveal personal information to a stranger, but going on a date can be a great way to meet someone new with no expectations placed on you. Alternatively, some apps, such as Bumble, have a ‘BFF’ feature where you can match with people who are looking for friends with similar interests in your area.
Meet friends of friends
Once you have a handful of friends in a new city, the hard part is over. When you find people that you get along with and are naturally drawn to, you’ll likely discover that their friends are pretty similar to you too. After all, it’s often said that you’re a summation of those you spend the most time with.